Have you ever wondered why some people love to be alone and hate going out to parties or other crowded places? Do you find it difficult to go to a bar or a club because you feel awkward and uncomfortable? Or do you spend hours keeping up with friends online as opposed to spending time with them in real life? In case the answer is – Yes! Then that probably indicates that you’re an introvert.
Introverts are different from extroverts. They don’t like loud environments and big crowds. They usually enjoy spending time alone and might even feel a bit exhausted after a suffocating day in crowded places.
When you think of an introvert, chances are the first few words that come to mind are shy, quiet, or boring. However, these misconceptions about an introvert’s character can be damaging to their self-esteem. There are various psychological tests that prove the personalities of introverts and extroverts are completely different.
If you have recently realized that you are an introvert, then there are some important things you should know about your differences. Being an introvert does not make you inferior to any extroverts or vice versa. It does require some more understanding on your part. In this blog, we will point out 6 of the most common signs in introverts.
What Does It Mean to Be an Introvert?
What is an introverted person like? You might think introverts are shy, or that they all share a single personality type. You’d be wrong on both counts.
An introvert is a person whose energy level and the amount of stimulation required to “get going” tend to be lower than average. Introverts are drained by social interactions, even with people they like and often in particular because of such interactions. They need time in solitude in order to recharge and regain energy.
Introvert comes from the Latin word “intro,” which means “inside.” That tells us introverts are focused on what is going on inside their mind. They prefer to stay inside their comfort zone, especially when it comes to social activities.
According to psychology, introversion and shyness are two different things. An introvert is someone who finds other people tiring. Shyness, on the other hand, stems from a fear of being judged by others.
When you’re an introvert, it feels like there’s a spotlight on you at all times. And you can’t control it: if you could turn it off at will, you would. The feeling of being observed drains your energy and leaves you feeling exposed and vulnerable. The more energy you have when around other people, the more exhausting it is when you have to keep up that energy for long periods of time.
The following are just a few of the signs that you might be an introvert.
1. You Don’t Enjoy Being Around Lots of People
If you’re an introvert, you may feel like your personality is at odds with the world. That’s because extraversion is the default human personality.
As an introvert, you probably already know that you need time alone to recharge. You probably know that socializing tucker you out. You probably know that large groups of people are draining, and so are loud music and busy commutes.
2. You Enjoy Being Alone
Solitude is underrated. It’s not just for hermits and misanthropes. Introverts need alone time to recharge their batteries, but they also enjoy it because their minds work best when they’re given the freedom to roam. They think in the shower, while running errands, or even when doing mundane things like washing dishes or folding laundry. Whatever they do, they enjoy their private times.
3. You Have a High Level of Self-Awareness
What does it mean to be self-aware? It means you’re aware of your own emotions and thoughts and motivations.
Introverts are often very self-aware. They tend to think a lot about what they experience. They may feel awkward in large social situations because of too much stimulation and not enough time to process what is happening in their minds.
Introverts find it easier to share thoughts in writing than face-to-face, and they often write journals about their feelings and experiences. They may enjoy talking about themselves with people who understand them well, such as close friends or family members.
4. You Enjoy Having a Small Group of Friends
If you’re an introvert, you probably aren’t surprised to hear that you prefer having a small number of close friends rather than a large number of friends. But it’s less widely known that introverts often enjoy spending time alone and often get drained by socializing.
“I am not at all in favor of occasional solitude,” said Susan Cain, the author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, “but I am very much in favor of it as a way of life.”
She and other experts on introverts emphasize that everyone needs some time alone. Ideally, people who are extroverted get their energy from being with others and need to spend some time alone to replenish that energy. People who are introverted get their energy from being alone and need to spend some time with others to keep from getting drained.
These differences may seem subtle, but they have big implications for how we live our lives. For example, introverts tend to be more sensitive than extroverts to external stimuli such as noise or harsh lighting. An introvert in a noisy restaurant may feel uncomfortable even in the company of good friends, while an extrovert in a library may feel perfectly content when reading with no one else around.
5. You Are Described As Quiet and Reserved
If you are quiet and reserved, people will make all sorts of assumptions about you. Some of them will be incorrect. Introverts are not necessarily shy. Shyness is a kind of social anxiety disorder. Introverts just get tired of other people after a while. They don’t have to interact with people to feel good about themselves. In fact, interacting with people can drain their energy. Introverts do not necessarily dislike people. They just prefer not to spend the majority of their time interacting with them, all the while pretending that they enjoy it.
6. Your Great Career Choice Involves Working Independently
Introverts are often drawn to careers that involve working independently. Programmers, for example, are sometimes accused of being loners or misanthropes, but many introverts enjoy programming because it allows them to work alone. Working alone has other benefits for introverts too. It reduces the amount of time they have to deal with social situations, which is appealing whether they enjoy socializing or not.
If you’re an introvert, don’t take it as a sign that there is something wrong with you. Being introverted is just another way of being. It may feel like a flaw, but just because you prefer quiet and calm to loud and active doesn’t mean you’re not good at relationships or that you can’t be successful. If you want to be more successful socially, work on your communication skills. If you want to be more successful professionally, work on your career skills.
We’d like to close by talking about one of the most important strengths introverts have: their ability to think independently and creatively. Introverts tend to spend a lot of time in their own heads, and this gives them the opportunity to develop rich inner lives and think deeply about what they see going on around them. This kind of thinking makes it easier for them to come up with new ideas and solutions and insights that aren’t obvious at first glance. Calmness is also a strong sign of intelligence.
Being an introvert is not a disorder or a deficiency or something that needs to be “corrected.” It is one of the variants in temperament that exists in the world, just like being extroverted. In introversion, there are important things going on in the brain. Introversion is not a flaw. It’s a feature.